Why don't I want sex anymore?
Lower desire, changed arousal, or feeling disconnected from intimacy.
What you may want to know
A change in desire is one of the most commonly reported and least discussed midlife concerns.
Desire is shaped by many things at once, including sleep, mood, stress, relationship context, pain with sex, medications such as some antidepressants, and hormonal change.
Counseling, sex therapy, pelvic floor physical therapy, and medical options are all part of clinical conversations. What is appropriate for any individual is a decision for her and her clinician.
If you build your Hormone Map, this page can also show what you've already reported in this area.
Build My Hormone MapWhat may be useful to track
- Whether the change has been gradual or sudden, and roughly when it started.
- Whether discomfort, fatigue, or mood are part of the picture.
- Any medication changes around the same time.
Questions you could bring to your clinician
Once you've completed the assessment and reported symptoms in this area, question prompts based on what you reported will appear here.
When to seek care
- If low desire is accompanied by persistent low mood, loss of interest in most things, or hopelessness, contact a clinician promptly.
- If a symptom is severe, getting worse, or interfering with your daily life, it is reasonable to contact a clinician rather than waiting.
This is a patient-reported, educational summary. It is not a diagnosis, a medical record, or a treatment recommendation. Only your clinician can advise on what is appropriate for you.
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